“Next to war, marriage is the
most relentless test of the human spirit.”
“To their surprise, they
discovered an actual count (5 positive to 1 negative) that determined
which couples divorced and which ones remained married.”
“Newer research is uncovering differences in female and male brain
structures that affect the way men and women process data.”
“Conflict in marriage brings to the surface what is not working or
what needs attention.”
“All marriages go through stages, seasons. Sometimes, they are
sequential, and at other times, they recycle or skip a stage.”
“Some of the saddest persons in the world are those who believe, My
spouse is responsible for my happiness.”
“It appears that the nature of human beings is to use what was made
to be enjoyed and to enjoy what was made to be used.”
“There is an ongoing misunderstanding between husbands and wives
about conversation, and there is a simple reason for the endless battle
of the sexes.”
“On the other hand, most wives do not feel like making love until they
feel loved.”
“Living together before marriage
increases the risk of divorce.”
“Birth order can affect marriages positively or negatively.”
“Depression can wreak havoc on a marriage gradually or suddenly.”
“Husbands as Sole Breadwinners
… A Radically New Idea.”
“Scholars found no evidence that unhappily married people who divorced
were typically any happier than married people who stayed married.”
“Dr. Michael Liebowitz (1983), who teaches at Columbia University
and does extensive brain studies, has an explanation for the high that
happens when people become lovers.”
“One of the great joys of being married for many years is the deep
connectedness that comes from shared memories.”
“Failure to develop a satisfying intimate relationship with one’s marital
partner has been the single most frequently presented problem in
therapy” according to Greenberg and Johnson in their book Emotionally
Focused Therapy for Couples.”
“It’s a myth that couples can’t be happy unless they solve all their problems.”
“A shared religious core allows a family to see beyond itself. Without
a shared faith, families, like individuals, can experience despair when
facing the death of a parent or the tragic loss of a child.”
“Fair fighting creates strong marriages”
“All couples have unconscious contracts in their heads. As long as
these unexpressed expectations are met, all is peaceful on the home
front. But what happens when her covenantal expectations are not
the same as his?”
“Can someone be married and still be lonely? This is the question
addressed in the next two enhancers.”
“I believe the most important task of being a parent is to help your children grow up
with positive self-esteem.”
“Dreikurs suggests that parents should look for a deeper meaning
behind the child’s acting out. He believes it helps parents to start with
this premise: Every misbehaving child is a discouraged child.”
